I have come to the conclusion that I really need only two major markers for who to choose as my friends:
- Those who give more than they take, and
- Those who creates flow more than they create friction
The first one is simple; Avoid leeches. Associate with people who continually generate positive karma.
The second one is also easy to recognize; Avoid unnecessary trouble. Associate with people who make things flow, makes things work, create results. I avoid people who create social frictions more than social positive vibes.
“Taking” and “friction” are not just “bad“. They are important parts of life. The operative words in my advice above are “more than“.