After coaching lots of people on this (myself included), I’ve boiled it down to four simple questions that will get you close to most people in a matter of minutes. For this to work, you need to open up yourself and reveal your own answers to these questions along the way. A free two-way flow creates good trust, knowledge of the other and a basis for friendship or beyond. Try it out on some strangers and tell me how it went. But remember, be direct, blunt even – no beating around the bush:
- If you were granted three wishes, what would they be?
- What are your 5 strongest sides?
- What are your 2 weakest sides?
- What have you done in life that has given you the worst conscience?
Get answers to these and share your own and you will both know if you have a potential friend right there.
Truly superior pilots are those who use their superior judgement to avoid those situations where they might have to use their superior skills
I read this excellent quote today in the 70th anniversary magazine for the Scandinavian Airline Systems (SAS). It’s applicable to life in general.
- Decide to learn something new from every experience in your life
- Experience a wide variety of situations
You never lose. You either win and learn or learn.
Straight from Ed’s blog:
Many take pride in being able to do several things at once. Unfortunately, unless you are one of those very rare people who can actually do it, multitasking means doing things more poorly than if you had singletasked each task…
It’s been a cool trip from the first time we met. She has evolved into a very complete artist with great crowd impact. The clue is always to stay mentally present and to keep more interested in moving the audience than interesting in front of them.
Last week I did a really fun job up in the north of Norway. Together with a group of 20 people from Nordland County Council, we crafted their new communications strategy. Norway is divided into 19 counties, and Nordland is the second biggest. The task at hand was to create the core of their 4 year communications strategy in 12 hours.
The only way to achieve this was to attack the task with radical simplicity. And the result was a three word sentence backed up with a set of 12 simple questions with short and to-the-point answers.
What puzzled me was how strikingly smooth the session went. And so I asked the group at the end. Their answer: “We have a great appreciation for differences”. An excellent answer – because it’s not enough to tolerate differences in a group, you have to really appreciate differences. You have to get a positive kick out of other people’s views and opinions. That’s when you get a group who forge new realities. And so we did.
What was those three words? Check out the video and figure out the Norwegian 🙂