When my oldest son was about three years old, an interesting episode in the young boy’s life played out.
He was screaming for an ice cream. Full of tears and emphasized by volume, he sooo wanted that ice cream.
I sat down and said: “If it helps to scream, you should scream a lot. Because it helps. But if it doesn’t help, you might as well stop. The choice is yours“.
I waited a few seconds. The young boy wiped his tears and looked at me.
“Why did you stop“, I asked. “Because it doesn’t help“, he replied.
“What do you think will help?“. Thoughtful. A second later he said “Daddy, if I help you with that and that (pointing), can I get the ice cream then?“.
“That’s a pretty good deal. Yes, then you deserve the ice cream“.
He happily devoured the cone of ice. Finished, I asked “Did that help?“. “Oh yes!“, he exclaimed.
After that such screaming became rare 🙂