“If you have a purpose of helping others, then why are you helping people that only help themselves?”
That’s a good question. One that I’ve been asking myself lately. There are some definite pros to helping athletes and others who compete. The results are easily measured and so clearly visible. A placement, a rank, a medal. And my contribution can be discerned. But to help someone win competitions implies helping them to focus – on that specific result, to the exclusion of almost everything else. This is the essence of Two Lengths of the Pool when applied to people who compete. To help people focus on competitive results is to help people become more egotistical. Because so many other parts of life and empathy need to go ta make place for that top position. For glory. For The Win.
I help all kinds of people – from athletes to housewives. And that is why I have come to ask myself this question. Because I can compare so many people I’ve helped. And while helping an athlete win gold is really fun, helping someone with a purpose to help others is far more rewarding in the long run – for the person I help. If the person wants to win a competition, I have to help him become more focused, more egotistical. If the person wants to help others, I have to help him to open up and become more empathetic.
This is the moral dilemma inherent in the question. But it’s not quite a rhetorical question, as maybe a balance is needed?
Here’s life from Geir’s point of view:
Not even close to complete or even correct, but it’s a start.
Happiness is not a state.
Happiness is growth.
The derivative of happiness is not zero.
The derivative of happiness is positive energy.
I have blogged about the Innovation Garage before.
And now it’s in the news. FutureNautics has written about the Garage titled, “Space Age”. Go check it out: http://www.futurenautics.com/2017/02/space-age/
Update (2017-03-13): Here’s another article in Dockyard Magazine. Also, I’ll be speaking on the Shipping2030 conference and be on the panel discussing the human side of innovation.
“I am struggling in my job. I don’t know if I should quit my job or continue. And if I continue, whether I should focus on this or that or the other thing. Is this type of work even for me? I feel exhausted. Not much positive feedback, and I don’t really know if what I’m doing is valuable for the company, for any customers or for other employees. I feel kinda lost. What should I do?”
He looked at me across the table. Across his cup of coffee, and mine. I started out slowly:
“You know, there’s stacks of books written about this, countless methodologies and coaching practices addressing these kinds of issues.”
He looked eagerly at me, waiting for some book or methodology that would match his complex problem. Some kind of intricate way of resolving his issues. But then I went on:
“But really, it boils down to just one simple concept. Just one.”
He looked sorta disappointed. Like I was about to invalidate his complex problem or insult his intelligence.
“You only need to impress.”
“Yes, impress your customer, your boss, your colleague, your wife, your kids, yourself. But impress by delivering something of value. Impress your customers in every meeting. Impress your colleagues every workday. Impress your kids by really playing with them when they bring out the Lego. Impress your wife in bed. Impress by delivering. Unconditionally and as much as you can. If you do this, you’ll be doing good. And this is all you need to do.”
Here’s a rare opportunity for software developers, innovators, sysadmins, geeks: Join in the creation of a true “innovation garage”. I have taken on the task of creating a subsidiary for a client of mine. The “Dualog Innovation Garage” will spearhead the company’s innovations thrust in the maritime industry. Here’s a short intro:
Dualog (dualog.com) is a Norwegian based company with offices in the UK, Denmark and Singapore. Dualog delivers software to optimize onboard Internet under narrow bandwidth conditions in addition to other functionality for crew, management and ship owners. The company is financially very solid and is gearing up for new innovations in accordance with their tag line “Innovations at sea delivered with passion.” The task at hand is to build an “innovation garage” with 4 world class developers willing to move above the Arctic circle (Tromsø), go crazy with innovation and shock the maritime world. Anything goes in terms of new ideas, new technology and new ways of working – as long as it helps the company make waves and expand by amazing their customers.
It would be a dream job for any die hard or playful geek. It would mean doing what you really love. Not dragging your feet to work every day but instead feeling that inner urge and excitement when you get up in the morning. You would be living your passion. A bit like my earlier blog post, titled “Xtreme“.
You can be old or young, a rookie or a seasoned veteran, shy or outgoing. But you have passion and something unique to offer. You make stuff happen.
Interested? Send an e-mail to Geir Isene (firstname.lastname@example.org)
We will adopt the HP garage rules 🙂
I am continually simplifying and refining how I coach people.
Here’s a HyperList that sums up my current approach:
0. Be direct in the coaching. Speak your mind. Always
1. Ensure the person realizes that he is creating all his thoughts and emotions
This will enable him to take full responsibility for what goes on in his mind
It will help him to not blame others for what he himself is responsible for
2. Ensure the person is able to be fully mentally present
Get the person to read “Mental training – The core”
Train the person to be “here & now”
3. Establish the person’s “Two lengths of the pool” (2LP)
Assess his strengths and weaknesses in accomplishing his 2LP
4. Do what it takes to help the person accomplish his 2LP
There are several tools that can help, such as:
Unburdening stress and exercize liking everything
Failing and learning more
Or the short form:
Realizing he is creating all his thoughts and emotions
Exercize mental presence
Establish his 2LP
Accomplish the 2LP