When my oldest son was about three years old, an interesting episode in the young boy’s life played out.
He was screaming for an ice cream. Full of tears and emphasized by volume, he sooo wanted that ice cream.
I sat down and said: “If it helps to scream, you should scream a lot. Because it helps. But if it doesn’t help, you might as well stop. The choice is yours“.
I waited a few seconds. The young boy wiped his tears and looked at me.
“Why did you stop“, I asked. “Because it doesn’t help“, he replied.
“What do you think will help?“. Thoughtful. A second later he said “Daddy, if I help you with that and that (pointing), can I get the ice cream then?“.
“That’s a pretty good deal. Yes, then you deserve the ice cream“.
He happily devoured the cone of ice. Finished, I asked “Did that help?“. “Oh yes!“, he exclaimed.
After that such screaming became rare 🙂
Geir Isene - uncut 
Great story. It’s all about being in communication, isn’t it? I wasn’t the perfect mother by a long shot but I had my own moments of genius. Well done, Geir. ML, Songbird
yeah, kids are cool huh 🙂 little beings. i usually see mothers/fathers they can’t handle the screaming and try to run really bad 8-c on their kids, sometimes hitting. i’ve observed that. they just yell at them like they are animals and should stop. and when that doesn’t work, they get more angry etc.
maybe if more people got in comm with their kids, the world would be a different place 🙂
communication is the universal solvent 🙂
Now THAT’S what we mean by “Cause over life”!
I believe that how a child turns out to be reflects a lot on the parents.
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The first part was good, but the second part, when you asked him what do you think will help? Was beautiful. Great story.