Give more than you take

Today I was looking at what makes my life work well. The results I create come from the actions I do. My actions come from my decisions. And my decisions come from my attitudes, my values. So, I started looking at my values in life, and though they count dozens, there would be one central, major value that I can consider core. I came to this:

“Give more than you take”

I could add, “Take lots, but give even more”.

That sums it up for me.

35 thoughts on “Give more than you take

    1. Perhaps one answer, Vin? — Take a little squizz to the sidebar on the left! πŸ˜‰

  1. Name of your attitude is GENEROSITY. I wonder if you were dissapointed by someone during your life, man or woman, person who received a lot from you and later you realized he/she didn’t deserve.

  2. Great place to BE, Geir. I’m there too! πŸ™‚ And you’re right, it does take a lot of reflection, evaluation and re-evaluation (of values). But the feeling inside? — Priceless!

  3. Here’s a deep, philosophical view on the subject of giving and receiving.

    “…Perhaps you have been taught that it is better to give than to receive. Giving is a powerful way to learn how to receive, but it is not the whole picture. There is a circuit of completion in giving and receiving that happens within you and in your external world at the same time. If you trust unconditionally in the giving, you are not attached to how the gift is received. When you freely give, you fill your cup with sweet waters, which you can then offer innocently and purely to another. Know, on one level, that your gift is poured out universally regardless of how it appears to be received. However, when the gift comes from ego, it is limited by expectations and conditions. Love just is. It is neither given nor taken; rather it is simply discovered and allowed.

    “It is also a great gift to allow others to give fully to you, for in your receptivity the circuit of love is completed. Love is all that is, and by completing the circuit of giving and receiving on the physical plane, you form an infinite loop that continually expands into new octaves of expression on other planes.

    “Trust in the larger pattern to provide what you need. Open to receive. Communicate your feelings, desires and dreams.”

    http://niinac.blogspot.com/2010_10_27_archive.html

          1. hi marildi and ray

            i love both…women and men who can ‘dance’…haha… and both of you can… love your comms and

            your latest ones are…looooove them!

            ray…a bit of music and dancing. your wish what to put here next? though, it may happen that marildi

            will put it here faster than your response arises…!

            enjoy it the way i do… i put it here earlier but i feel it’s worth it again…life is fresh-anew in listening

            and feeling, yes?

            1. Hi Marianne!

              That video is worth putting here again – nothing like music and dancing. πŸ™‚

              I’d also like to hear your point of view regarding Geir’s idea of “give more than you take”? Is it true that it’s better to give than receive, as it says in the Bible, or would you agree with the quote I posted?

              In the meantime, here you go:
              ]

            2. Hi marildi, thank you for your questions! They helped me to look into the topic of ‘pointers’. In answer
              to your questions, i put here a question:
              Are those courageous or fools who use words as ‘fingers pointing to the moon’?
              The experience here is: courageous. I find even more courageous those who are brave enough
              to be concise. Geir’s invitation by being that in what he writes is: look at my actions which when
              observed high’light’ my decisions which when ‘got’ re-flect my values.
              Reading what he wrote and what you posted i have the feel that when one uses a word, one
              puts oneself to be a target of being fully understood or misunderstood if even slightly. I have another
              feel here that what geir posted and what you posted are basically the same in practice. The two
              concepts which, when used differently, may cause some misunderstanding ( if there is any).
              Interesting to look at that both ‘take’ and ‘receive’ have the meaning of: experience and feel.
              Also, look at this:
              Origin of RECEIVE
              Middle English, from Anglo-French receivre, from Latin recipere, from re- + capere to take β€” more at heave

              heave
              to breathe in and breathe out
              1
              obsolete : elevate
              4
              a : to cause to swell or rise

              I see interesting things when i look at these meanings…( and their roots which i am not putting here
              now).

              And you?

              Addition: Geir, as i write, i find being concise a virtue ( this concept is related to ‘mastering’ ).
              In mastering the Einstein quote still holds:
              ‘Make everything as simple as possible but not simpler’.
              Choosing to be ‘concise’ as a powerful quality may result in being a bit simpler when life is asking
              for a little more extensive self-expression. When it is the case, one puts there some more expressions
              of self, using several tools. Yeah, you have been doing so as those who visit your blog can see that.
              This time again, extending the Self a bit further? Or rather, helping the ‘expansion of the universe’
              as some say?

              i put here one of my favourite songs, i feel it is related to the OP and what you quoted, marildi

          2. Hi Marianne πŸ™‚ Yes it is just so enthralling to watch the guy and gal who can create that beautiful ‘music’ together.

            And how about Marildi’s invite? Let us know what you think of Geir’s point of “giving more than you take.”

            Love, Ray. πŸ™‚

  4. i wish to share something, using an earlier phrase : this is where i am at

    using a quote from what you quoted, marildi

    ‘Love just is. It is neither given nor taken; rather it is simply discovered and allowed.’

    i find it true in experience.. AND…there looks to be a vaaast intelligence…when one ‘stops’ and
    ‘feels, looks and listens’, this is the ‘path’ which when ‘walked’ can show some never conceived
    by the mind ‘experiences’… the ‘path of wisdom’ ?

    1. So true, Sis’. And just to underscore the point, perhaps you can do the honors, by posting the original vid: “Mr Probz – Nothing really matters” (ps. that was actually the vid mentioned on the “Try this” OP. Still, the Metallica vid was great too!)

      Luv ya, Ray. πŸ™‚

    2. Thanks, Marianne. Knowing you, I thought that would be your big-picture point of view. However, I have another quote that I think might be more like Geir’s pragmatic approach to things. This is from a review of the book *Give and Take* by Adam Grant:

      “For generations, we have focused on the individual drivers of success: passion, hard work, talent, and luck. But today, success is increasingly dependent on how we interact with others. It turns out that at work, most people operate as either takers, matchers, or givers. Whereas takers strive to get as much as possible from others and matchers aim to trade evenly, givers are the rare breed of people who contribute to others without expecting anything in return.
      […]

      “Praised by bestselling authors such as Susan Cain, Dan Pink, Tony Hsieh, Seth Godin, Dan Ariely, Gretchen Rubin, David Allen, Dan Gilbert, and Robert Cialdini–along with senior leaders from Google, McKinsey, Merck, Estee Lauder, Twitter, Nike, and NASA–Give and Take highlights what effective networking, collaboration, influence, negotiation, and leadership skills have in common. This landmark book opens up an approach to success that has the power to transform not just individuals and groups, but entire organizations and communities.”

      http://www.amazon.com/Give-Take-Helping-Others-Success/dp/0143124986

      1. Geir, I think the above quote also relates to your last post, about the stupidity of project management. And I noted that one of the leaders in business that you like – Dan Pink – praised the book. Come to think of it, I wouldn’t doubt that you have already read it! Have you?

            1. Sweet!

              Hey, I thought of your group of regulars here when I watched this Rupert Sheldrake video recently, a short talk on “Morphic Fields and Systemic Family Constellations”. I wonder if the others would agree. It has to do with entanglement. πŸ˜‰

  5. Now I know what the ol’ man meant by: “As-is” >> “Azzz-izzzz–zz– zzz-snort!– zz.” πŸ™‚

    1. …perceiving through as pure theta while some new, fresh ‘knowing’ arises and at the ‘end’ of

      perceiving through there is pure theta…which is perceiving through the next manifestation which

      appears….? It is a ‘journey’ of Free Will and Free Love ( i see them as the same, just different

      wording) ?

        1. Hahaha… reading what you write i just started to laugh and laugh…haha… the first that came to mind
          was a question: Is there anything new ”’under”’ the Sun’ to you ray which you haven’t yet experienced
          or seen ( and to any other aware person)? The next one was again a question: what happens when
          one stops living by considerations, what is Life lived then like? ( as considerations are senior to mest,
          what is senior to considerations?)

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