After a long discussion on the blog post titeled “Your Life“, one of the contributors (katageek) came up with a much better angle than “Fuck It” or even “letting go”:
I suggest “So What?” over “Fuck it!” When it comes to kids. For two reasons:
1. “So what?” can trump any “That’s What.”
and …
2. It’s not bastardizing sex, the coolest thing in life!
EXAMPLE FROM HISTORY:
GENGHIS KHAN: “I’ve conquered your people and slaughtered them.
TRIBAL LEADER: “Yeah, so what?”
GENGHIS KHAN: “SO WHAT? SO … WHAT? … I’ve conquered your people and killed them all but the finest women. Here is your wife. Watch as I, Genghis Khan rape and impregnate her at the height of her fertility as you watch. And then I will kill you in front of her THAT’S WHAT!”
TRIBAL LEADER: “Yeah, so WHAT? It’s been done before. Nothing new here.”
*****
CONCLUSION: There is no “That’s what” that cannot be trumped by a “So what?” And by saying “Fuck it” to Genghis Khan, you are submitting to him cuz “fuck it” was what he was going to do.
Remember, 1 in every 200 people is descended from Genghis Khan.
But … So what?
I’d say this is a better angle for everyone, not just for kids.
The ingenious angle here is that “So what?” is a question. It encompasses both “fuck it” and “letting go” and directs the person to what comes next. It inspires the person to letting go and to look for solutions in a subtle way.
Now this provides an excellent example as to why I blog. You guys help shape my views. Melike.
Geir Isene - uncut 
Funny example 🙂 In a way your example is serious, considering history cruelty as a perpetuum mobile.
The U.S. version is BFD. Big fucking deal.
and there is a better way than ”so what?’ very simple, but let you and katageek find that one…. it might take some time since both of yours reality evolved from fuck it to so what?
One of the possible better ways can only be expressed silently. (A knowing, smiling silence, not a sullen silence).
But “So What?” can also be expressed in music, if anyone remembers the tune with that name by Miles Davis.
Now, your comment more in the line of my reality 🙂 and I just have realised at this moment why I have rejected the so what… not so much the words but words are sitting -connected to energy-mass I did not like what I experienced.. No I dont know that song, but because of you now :’There is a song in my heart’. thank you David.. have a lovely day! Elizabeth
David I just listen to that jazz number, great!
… ‘story’ 2 : Is That So?
http://myrkothum.hubpages.com/hub/3zenstories
Thank you Geir. I have learned a lot from this blog and community.
One could even modify Tonglen with “so what?”
Step 1. Breathe in the suffering of the individual, group or other category.
Step 2. Breathe out a wish of “so what?”
lol, I love this simplicity, a philosophy in a phrase.
in some neighborhoods, “so what” could be trumped with: that’s what she said, your mom or your face
So true comment by thehandling ! In the back seat of the car yesterday, my 2 yr old answered me, “mora di” (norwegian for “your mom”). Freaking hilarious!
Thanks, this blog helps me shape my views too!
So what…! Hee, hee!