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How to help a friend in trouble: Simple and effective tools (OnePageBook)

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Gain a set of simple and effective tools to help others with this OnePageBook™.

Help a friend, colleague, son, daughter or other family member or any person you meet.

Easy to learn, short time to master. Practice regularly and be of lasting value to others.

No lengthy explanations. No background stories. No anecdotes. Just the tools. Effective tools.

As an e-book on Amazon, or as a downloadable pdf. The fifth OnePageBook.

I am wrong.

Geir Isene 46 Comments

It’s important to heed one’s own advice. And in light of recent exchanges on this blog, I am inspired to review where I am wrong, where I could do with some correcting, and where I have potential for improvement.

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I wrote this in an exchange: “…in order to become better in any area, a person must admit to being wrong. When I coach people and help people improve in an area, they first realise they are wrong in that area before they can improve. No admitting to being wrong equals no gain.“. It goes hand-in-glove with me “helping people fail“.

Passing on an opportunity to improve is folly. I am thankful for the opportunity to see my errors and for this opportunity to express them. Because without seeing and expressing it, my chances for improvement is blunted if not halted. Here goes:

  • I bog down to perfecting details when I lose strong interests in important games in life.
  • I find it hard to get started on new directions in life. Instead I keep polishing what is already quite perfect.
  • I get too emotionally engaged in discussions where I am certain I am right. That’s when I become an asshole. It can turn out quite counter-productive as it can drive another to be even more insisting on being right.
  • In an effort to assert my own rightness in a discussion, I can forget to really listen to and understand the other person.
  • In an effort to assert my own rightness in a discussion, I can forget to compliment the other person for valuable input.
  • I can get blinded by the contents of a discussion and often disregard the form of the discussion.
  • I tend to focus on logic and disregard factors that are often more important, such as pure art, crazy initiatives and “batshit” as Katageek would call it.
  • While my journey to OT 8 in Scientology has given me huge improvements in harmony, resilience and ability to “letting go”, these very gains has also deprived my life of some excitement and zest. I am trying to figure out how to improve the sense of adventure and lose some of that calm harmony. Anyone willing to trade?

I am sure I have forgotten important points in the list above. But heck, I am a work in progress and I can always add more points later.

I have had many changes in viewpoints in the past years. Thanks to many contributors on this blog, my viewpoints on Scientology, philosophy and life in general has markedly evolved. I am on a quest to evolve further, and I welcome your input as to how I can best improve on the above points.

BTW; This is my post #500 on this blog. Perhaps it will mark an improved Geir 🙂

Defending the detrimental makes you an accomplice

Geir Isene 933 Comments

No beating around the bush here.

Read Anette’s post on her blog, then consider this:

Lives are ruined in the Church of Scientology. Every day.

The root cause of the harm done in the church lies within Scientology itself. No matter how you want to twist and justify what’s going on in the church, there is no way that the church could end up doing this much harm while it has in its possession the ultimate tool to do everything right. There simply has to be one or more root causes within the teachings of Scientology itself to make this cult evolve as it has. And the root cause(s) is not “misapplication”, “lost Scientology knowledge or tools”, “bad management”, “bad policy” or “a faulty ethics system”. There is something very wrong with the basic Scientology mentality. The mindset. The fundamental approach and principles.

Because if the fundamental principles, approach and mindset was sound and right, the decent people in Scientology would have straightened out the scene a long time ago.

So, if you are knowledgeable in Scientology, it lies within your powers to help uncover the damaging root cause(s). To convince others there are none or to defend the infallibility of Scientology makes you an accomplice to the crimes committed by the church.

And if you have gotten gains in Scientology. If you know it can do good, you harbor the motivation to uncover the reasons within Scientology that perpetrates the damage to people’s lives. Because if you want to save the good before the subject becomes dreaded beyond repair, you need to be quick on your feet to find the evil within and root it out before the good suffocates.

Let’s get to the bottom of this, let’s dig out the harmful parts to help stop the harm, save the good within and again focus completely on helping others.